Yesterday we had the priviledge of hearing Dr. Kevin Leman speak on Making Children Mind Without Losing Yours. We laughed thru his presentation. We took notes and saw lots of options for application. I really liked the phrase "A healthy child is not a happy child".
Terrible fits!! This morning with us back in full swing for school was a prime time to apply the seminar from last night! Banished at breafast she eventually quieted. She appologized and we were off to a late start to school.
I think I've warned way too much. Justice has been slow coming. Tedious and trialsome! I've gotten way too involved & mad. That's what I've got to change.... With the fit over we simply jumped righ into the next thing. School then lunch. Then the girls got ready for ballet. This was the consquence....
Dressed and ready for ballet I simply told her because of her attitude this morning she would not be attending ballet. GRIEF!!!! We were at time to leave. I left her wailing and got into the car... she followed.... I turned the radio up to cover the noise. There was no discussion. No explinations. Soon all was calm. We prayed in the car as our habit.
Amazed!! At ballet she expained to her sister why that "she was disciplined because mommy loved her." She quoted "a father disciplined the son he loves." Proverbs 3:12 The LORD disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.
I watched in total shock as she accurately explained the entire situation. We talked thru that strangers did not care if a child threw a fit... only a loving parent cares. Wow!!
As sis went to ballet there were yet tears, hollars & unkind words. That control is a lesson yet to learn. Even yet I have peace that I made the right decision.... and I hope the lesson will be long remembered!!
Alas we may repeat it tomorrow!! God gives strength for the battle!!! Grace! ss
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Feb. 26, 2008 - Posted by LittleEblingsAcademy
Hi! I found you through "Recently Updated Blogs". I peeked around a bit and have enjoyed "getting to know you". It's been fun spending time with you this afternoon. I love your recipes and can't wait to copy a few down for future reference. I enjoyed your photos and quick family stories. I have the book, "Making Your Children Mind Without Losing Yours". I think I need to read it. *wink* (Don't we all?) Blessings, Beckie :o)
Feb. 26, 2008 - Way to go Steph!
You control your temper so well which is something I need to work on tremendously. What encouragement that she understood the discipline! Those moments are fleeting but are the most wonderful! Aimee
Feb. 26, 2008 - by homeschoolhelp
So glad you and your husband enjoyed Dr. Leman! Sounds like the calm and firm approach to discipline worked! Now I'm going to get his book out and do a little bit of reading in it -- picked it up at a garage sale months ago and haven't even opened it! Another book every mom should read -- She's Gonna Blow! by Julie Ann Barnhill . . . very real and practical advice. Blessings, Dianne
Feb. 27, 2008 - We like Leman too.
Posted by lklivingston
I'm glad you enjoyed the conference session. John had wanted to go to the whole conference, but I just didn't see it working out for us. We really like Dr. Leman though; we've got at least three of his books at the house.Edited by lklivingston on Feb. 27, 2008 at 9:51 PM
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